To my son

I know that you're worried about that English exam that you're supposed to take. I know that you're meant to "re-examine" yourself, fix yourself, continuously doubt yourself. And so much more than the education system and society teach, subliminally but effectively, succeeding most of the time. 

But I have something different to tell you...these thoughts came to my mind and they belong to you as well as to any young person that stumbles across them.

...That’s how you were persuaded to go into nursing and work in hospitals...
You wanted to help people…you cared about your fellow human beings. That’s how you studied in the existing institutions, how you crossed the bridge of subjects, exams, diplomas that "ensured your competence".

Little did you know – or doctors or anyone in the medical business for that matter – that the modern day “health system” isn’t about the human OR health! But then, that’s how most professions are chosen too; sentimentally! People are indoctrinated to think that the “health system” provides health, the “education system” provides education, the “law system” provides justice, the army provides security, theology provides truth, etc etc.

Young people are so cut off from the real world – what’s really going on, what society is really all about – and so forced to be cut off from themselves, that they more commonly chose their studies, profession and life blindly!

Why do you HAVE TO pass that English exam?
Why do you have to pursue society’s illusions of “more money”, “better position”, earning more than your partner” etc etc?
Why must you follow society’s expectations about who you have to be?
Why should you be someone else instead of who you are? If you don’t have a reason of a different purpose inside your heart, why should you be forced to having one?
Why do you have to "climb the ladder" of your profession?
Why do you have to follow the illusion?
Why do you have to have a different guiding system than your own internal one of discernment?
Why is there a “right” or a “wrong way of living?

Everything and everyone will force you outside of yourself. How much courage is needed to not allow that?

- You take every patient personally and care about the person behind the illness.
- You walk on the outside of a woman and/or child when escorting them on the street.
- You help the weaker than you in every way you can, wherever you meet them in your daily life.
- You are totally committed to your life, not giving in to social, needless conversations and purposeless acquaintances.
- You appreciate what you have and pay attention to the important – simple but real moments of life.
- You are curious and adventurous; travel to new places, taste new foods, meet new people and learn new things.
- You know how to listen and want to understand, without judging and/or condemning.
- You learn from your experiences not fearing failure, mistakes or the new.

Why must you be anything different than what you already are?

Why are we always supposed to chase after that which we don’t have, but according to the system’s requirements and not our own?

Why should the hospital not have a different evaluating system than the one it has?

Why should not your loyalty, genuine caring, willingness to learn, generosity, sincerity, come first and “mark” your progress, instead of some stupid English test?

When did any “expertise in language” ever prevent people from connecting with one another, caring, co-creating, giving the maximum of their ability, walking the extra mile, being inspirational, competent, inventive and authentic?

Why are you made to feel less than you really are if you're already more than you could be?

Why do you have to change just because who you are, is not appreciated or rewarded according to the system’s requirements and rewards? Especially since the system’s rewards (money, position, status) will not provide anything more than you already have…on the contrary! It will slowly and eventually attempt to subtract!

I know that you hurt because you're made to think that "you're not doing enough" to help your sister or me. I know that you beat yourself occasionally for not being able to change the injustice of the fake, brutal, evaluating system, which most people call "normality".  

But you need to know that you are doing much more than meets the eye, you are much more than this fake society realizes or appreciates. 

We live in a mad world. But we are not always mad ourselves. 

It takes wisdom, courage, and devotion to not modify who we truly are and not agree/consent to be molded, in a fake, rewarding/punishing system.

I don't have to persuade you, try to make you less than who you are!
You don't "have to" do anything other than pursue the answers to all thse (and many more) questions. Authentic answers..

Sometimes, there are no "hidden fears" that prevent us from pursuing society's elusive requirements. Sometimes, what we must do, is continue to have the courage of being who we really are! How else would we celebrate and honor our life?

Your sister will always have a brother (and an older sister who has the same courage of being herself) to look up to, help her, guide her, strengthen her inner guidance. What more could I have asked for?

Thank you for walking YOUR way! I honor you for creating your heart pathway!